I’m sharing this for all of us. I’m sharing it for myself because I want to internalize it. I want it to move from my head to my heart to my bones so that it’s not just a memory. I want it to become a knowing, a truth that my body knows too well for my mind to question.

I’m sharing it for you because most of us are too busy to remember everything….especially the stuff that would help us to feel lighter, less burdened. When something that’s heavy becomes a part of us, we teach ourselves to carry it with grace….forgetting that alchemy is real and that we can use it to heal.

My friend recently told me that she discovered a new way to look at loss. She decided to analyze her relationship with her friend, someone who is no longer physical. She determined what her favorite and most celebrated qualities were about that person. And now she’s going to look for AND celebrate these qualities in everyone she meets. This is her way of moving from grief to celebration…. And from loss to seeing this person everywhere!

I like the idea of celebrating those that I’ve lost. I like the thought that I can see my favorite things about them in other people. I envision this turning into a kind of inside joke between me and my missing person….like an ethereal smile and wink and nod confirming that we’re really still in touch.

I’m going to try her idea, I’d much rather live in celebration….because just missing them leaves me feeling too empty, too rudderless, too….much.

So now I’m going to start looking for the wink that tells me they’re here….where they’ve been all along anyway.

I’m glad you’re here 💜

This post is part of the November Nanopoblano challenge. A group of us committed to writing a blog post every day for the month of November. Please visit the blogs of my other Nanopoblano cheer pepper friends HERE