Dinah’s Coffee Chat 3/3/22

Sweet Alaska—Photo by Don

Hello my friend!

Thanks for stopping by. This is my first connection with you in several months because… Well, life happens…

If we were having coffee together I would start out by telling you that I am fine… Really, I’m doing well. But the last few months of 2021 were challenging. And the first couple months of 2022 were about recovering from and dealing with those issues.

The Cliff Notes version is as follows… Between October 17 and December 17 my two remaining brothers died as well as our beloved cat, Alaska. Then, on December 19, my husband started to feel sick and ended up with bronchitis which lasted for well over a month. And then, on New Year’s Eve, I caught the same bug but thankfully, to a lesser degree. 

In January 2022 I found out that my rights as power of attorney for my disabled brother ended with his death. I hadn’t known that previously. Consequently, his bank account was frozen and I was unable to make the final payment to the nursing home. This led me down a very winding path trying to figure out how to access the little bit of money that was remaining so that I could pay his bills…

I’m happy to say that all of that is behind me now… 

I am now the last remaining member of my family of origin. My parents and all three of my brothers have passed on. It’s a very, very strange feeling.

It often feels surreal.

If we were having coffee… I would also say that, because of all of the above, my life feels like it’s shifting. The changes are good and necessary and often quite disconcerting… I’m feeling like it’s time for me to feel it all and sit with it for a while.

Being power of attorney for my oldest brother was like having a part time job. I now feel like I need to re-invent and re-invigorate my life. All the things that went on hold, all the things that went on the back burner because of lack of time and lack of energy … All of these things are now resurfacing in my mind. I’m trying to figure out what to keep and what to release and how to start over with this new amount of time on my hands…

If we were having coffee… I would tell you that, in February, I was interviewed for a podcast about my book. I self published it in 2009 as a way to help the newly disabled adjust to their new situation, their new normal. Once the podcast has been edited and uploaded, I will share it here for your review. It was probably the most in-depth interview I’ve ever done. He was, by far, the best interviewer I have ever worked with! I’ll keep you posted…

There are other things to talk about but I’ll share them another time.… How are you? How has life been treating you? I hope that all is well in your world and I hope that spring finds us all very, very soon!

I’m so glad you’re here!💜

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20 thoughts on “Dinah’s Coffee Chat 3/3/22

  1. rawsonjl

    I am so sorry to read about your brothers and cat and all the illnesses and headaches and heartaches you’ve had to deal with over these past few months. I’m glad things are settling down for you and it does sound like a wonderful time to reinvent yourself.

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    1. Thank you for visiting and for reading. Truly, I’m doing well. The only reason I shared all of that is because we all go through tough times. I think it’s important for us to share the good, the bad and the ugly. Life isn’t always wonderful. But we can get through it together! Thanks so much for reading and for your kind support. Have a wonderful weekend!

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    2. Antoinette Truglio Martin

      I am so sorry you have had a very sad and trying journey, but glad you are back. Writing is a great way to sort out the grief.

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  2. Kay Glenn

    Hi Dinah, I’ve missed your coffee chats during the past few months. So glad you’re back. At the same time, I’m very sorry to hear about your brothers’ passing. So sad. On a brighter note, it’s good to know that they (& you) are now relieved of their earthly burdens. Nice that you will have more time to take care of your husband as well as yourself. Go forth, my friend, and pursue those things that bring you pleasure. You deserve that! Meanwhile, I’ll be looking forward to the next installment of your coffee chat. Your sensible approach to life is always an inspiration. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings.

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    1. Kay, so lovely to chat with you again! Thank you for your generous thoughts. I really appreciate your support. And I hope that you and your husband are doing well! Spring is coming for all of us… Which, to me, is another little bit of excitement! It’s my very favorite time of year. Thanks for staying in touch. Big hugs!💜

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  3. I’m so sorry to hear about all the troubles and sadness in your life lately. Sounds exciting about the podcast and your book… important topic! Getting more time on your hands and reinventing life also sounds exciting! Enjoy the new kind of stillness in life.

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    1. Thank you my friend. Yes… The stillness in life is most certainly a gift! Hoping all is well in your world… And hoping that spring finds us both very soon!🌺🌹🌺

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  4. Hi Dinah,
    I too have missed you and in the world of blogging, it is rare to have alternate paths to check up on someone but I’ve wondered as the last I heard was that your brother was failing and you were coping with various related challenges to do the best thing for him.
    Such a journey you’ve been on. . .
    I hope things can be quiet for a while now and that you can find that next path that will be fulfilling and comfort.
    But, along with checking in, you also asked about us – classic you I think to not forget others when you yourself must be exhausted.
    I’m still writing – and learning – and blogging about it all.
    I took the advice of several other bloggers and took on the challenge to produce full stories in 99 words – aka the Carrot Farm. About the same time I came across another weekly challenge that was based on weekly photo prompts. I decided to add KL Caley’s New To Writing, weekly challenge to the 99-word pattern to give myself a high weekly word count while progressing (hopefully faster) down the path of tightening up my writing. So most weeks starting near the end of January when the Carrot Ranch challenge resumed, I’ve been producing 2 99-word stories each week.
    So far, I feel like I’ve been well received and read, but I still feel like a novice. I do feel more confident as I’ve always thought myself to be more wordy than concise.
    If you are looking for some simple 30 second reads to stimulate that restless mind of yours, recall that you are always – always welcome at my site.
    This new collection can be found at:

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    then navigate the menus: Fiction -> Micro, 99-Word Stories

    It is so good to have you back. You’ve been through quite a long pull. But you did right by your brother and family it sound like despite being ill yourself.

    How I would welcome sitting down with you, buying you a good hot drink, maybe a dessert treat and then talking about whatever you felt like.

    Blessings

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    1. Hi Gary!
      Thanks for stopping by… And thanks for being concerned. Now that the exhaustion is lifting, I am feeling hopeful about what the next chapter might look like. I don’t really have many clues but I can sort of feel it gelling in the background…

      Your writing challenges sound… Quite challenging actually! I have never paid any attention to word count. That sounds a bit daunting to me. Good on you for being able to actually do that!

      Yes… It would be nice to chat someday. Perhaps a zoom call down the line like we had talked about last year. My thought is that, if we ever do it, we simply say… It’s happening on this day at this time and any and all are welcome… And then let it be. Trying to schedule it so that it works for everyone is just untenable… I think it needs to be more spontaneous and serendipitous! Anyway… It would be nice to chat someday…

      Wishing you all good things and looking forward to reading some of your writing.

      🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹

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  5. Dinah, I’m sorry to read about your brothers and cat and all the stresses you’ve had to deal with over these past few months. I’m glad things are settling down for you. It does sound like a wonderful time to take care of yourself and start over. Thank you for your #weekendcoffeeshare.

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    1. Thanks so much Natalie! It feels wonderful to be back in the community again. I missed everyone! Looking forward now to more regular contact with everyone. Thanks again!

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  6. I’m sorry about your brothers. That both passed in such a short time. No words. And Alaska – great photo at the top. As to the power of attorney, that is really insult to injury. I’m glad it is straightened out and behind you, though I’m sure you and your husband being sick in the middle of it made that even worse. I am hoping that you can move forward to a better place. Maybe create a soap opera about the last year!
    Anyway, glad to see you back on the coffee share. Hope your weekend is going well and that you have a wonderful week ahead 🙂

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    1. Thank you Trent! Yes… The power of attorney thing was obnoxious! They didn’t tell me that they were freezing his bank account. So when I paid his Nursing Home fee for the month of December, the check bounced so they added an additional $30! So I, being sick, did almost nothing for the month of January. I just decided that it could all wait! But I finally did the required paperwork and went to the bank and did everything that I needed to do about 10 days ago. It feels great to have it all behind me now… You would think they would tell you when they were freezing an account…?
      Anyway… Onward and upward! And it’s good to be back! Take care and have a great week!

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  7. Dinah, I am glad you are back. I’m so sorry to hear about your losses. As an only child, I lost my mother, step-father and father within a one year time frame and I am familiar with that feeling of surreal. Add taking care of estate stuff on top of it all is an extra blow of pain. Anyway, glad you are back and that you feel like the tides of life are shifting for the better.

    Thanks for the virtual coffee.

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  8. Oh my goodness Dinah, you have really been through quite a bit. I’m so sorry for your losses. I’m glad you and your husband are both feeling better and that things are looking up for you. It is strange when we lose so much of our family. I lost my dad last July and my mom has been gone for 18 years…my sister and I are not close so it at times feels like I am all that’s left of my immediate family. I’m thankful for my extended family of aunts and cousins, but it’s just not the same. The podcast sounds interesting too.

    I enjoyed catching up with you!

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    1. Thank you for stopping by! I’m sorry that you’re in a similar family situation. I guess it makes us appreciate our friends even more. Thanks too for your support. I hope to stay in better touch going forward.
      Have a great week 💜🙏💜

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